It’s Over…finally
How ironic is it that I wrote a blog about softball being a hobby and not my life now? What a miserable weekend. At least administratively. On the field, this may have been the most competitive tournament Rome has ever seen. I don’t remember the last time so many games were decided by less than 5 runs. Great job by all the teams involved and the officials.
Unfortunately, the weekend quickly became tainted prior to the McKie’s-Western game at 11:30 Saturday morning. Before the game, a McKie’s player that had previously played for Western called Western out on one of their players. The claim was that Western was using this player under another player’s name. The disputed player ended up sitting out this game, somewhat validating the claim of the McKie’s player.
As the game wore on, McKie’s and Western battled back and forth for seven innings with Western holding off McKie’s in the bottom of the seventh with the tying run on first for a two-run victory. Following that game, it was brought to the attention of the McKie’s team (by a team from the Sunday league in which Western participates) that Western may be using a player that had not played the requisite three league games prior to the tournament. McKie’s filed a protest regarding this player. When the smoke cleared, the player in question was ruled ineligible for tournament play, thus Western forfeited their game against McKie’s.
According to league rules, Western should have forfeited each game in which the ineligible player participated. The Board President decided that the two-game forfeit was harsh for Western (a long-time participant in Rome softball) and gave them the one game forfeit, thus giving McKie’s the win and bumping Western into the loser’s bracket. Naturally, other teams took issue with this ruling and understandably so. Western should have been booted from the tournament.
But instead of taking their medicine and dealing with it, Western decided to make a big stink about it and as a result tainted the entire mood of the tournament. Because they got caught not playing by the rules, they decided to make everyone else pay for their indiscretion. All of a sudden PBA/Palisades had an illegal player, McKie’s had an illegal player. Inicidentally, the PBA/Palisades player called into question played for Western all season but decided to play for PBA/Palisades during the tournament. The entire scenario smells of sour grapes.
What happened to manning up to your screw ups? Instead, McKie’s was called crybabies, sore losers, etc…because they called out a team they thought was cheating. The team was proven to have cheated and then went on to cry for the rest of the weekend. Another issue that factored into this was the fact that three of the league’s board members play for McKie’s. Sorry if that’s the case, but as I’ve said before, every member of the league had the same opportunity last year when Korp stepped down to join this board. One of the most vocal critics of our board was actually named to the board last year but dropped out because he didn’t want to have to make any decisions.
I apologize for stepping up to help keep this league operating. I apologize to all the many critics we’ve had all season. I apologize to the guys that were asked to be members, declined and then criticised every decision made by the board. But most of all, I apologize to my wife and kids who had to deal with my miserable mood all summer, all the phone calls, emails, text messages and message board comments.
I was told on the message board last night that there are many people not happy with the way the tournament was being run. You know what? Step up and make yourself heard then. I can take it. Why do you need to bitch amongst yourselves in the parking lot about how the board is making every decision to benefit McKie’s? We are the most transparent organization out there. We put EVERYTHING on the website, from financials, to player decisions to schedules. We do not hide anything from anybody. If you want to know something, ask one of us, we’ll tell you.
Regardless of what many of you may think, it’s not about us. I could give a shit if McKie’s wins the league title. It would be nice, but I know a.) It’s not realistic and b.) If we did, we’d be blamed for fixing it. I play with these guys because they are my friends and I enjoy a night out during the week to hang out with them and have a little fun.
This weekend was the furthest I’ve been from fun at the softball field my entire life when it should have been the most fulfilling. We beat a very good Bucky’s/Korp’s team on Thursday night to get into the winner’s bracket; played Western (who finished the regular season undefeated) to a 2 run loss with the tying run on; played Advanced (the 3 time league champ) to a one-run game with the tying run on second and again played Bucky’s/Korp’s in an extra innings game with the winning run on first. This was, by far, the best my team has played in the league tournament since we’ve been together. It should have been fulfilling, even if we did lose three games. It wasn’t.
Last night’s games were done by 7:00. The rest of the board members and I were in contact with each other and members of other teams until midnight. After we were done playing tonight and watching the rest of the tournament at field two, my wife and kids came to see me (as they hadn’t seen me since Friday). While I’m sitting there with my family, members of Western confronted members of my team, screaming expletives and continuing to argue their case that McKie’s used an illegal player and that their player wasn’t illegal. My wife never goes to the fields. The one time she does, she has to hear this shit? She hears softball BS from me every night during the summer. My wife screamed at this Western player to “Shut the ’F’ up. I’m sick of it!” and I didn’t blame her for doing it. I’m sick of it too. When this shit starts affecting my family life it’s just not worth it. I didn’t sign up for this. And for you Wetsel guys that want to tell me I should have known when I signed on…I say to you, Bullshit! I didn’t sign on to help administer a recreational softball league to have these headaches every single night; to have my family life affected. I signed on to keep this thing alive and now I regret doing it. I’m sorry if I have a life outside of softball. I’m not going to get any kind of financial reward for doing what I do. My life isn’t going to change because I may or may not play on a good softball team. And I’m sure as hell not going to let it change my family life.
I arrived home last night miserable. I was miserable from 11:30 yesterday morning until I went to bed. When I walked in the door, my 4 year old daughter was supposed to have been in bed already. I heard her fooling around, not being in bed, when I walked in the door and was ready to light her up. I literally almost went straight upstairs to yell at my kid for not being in bed when I hadn’t seen her since 8am that morning. What the hell is wrong with that?! Instead, I took a deep breath and told myself, “I can’t let this shit affect my home life.” I sat with her, read her a book and got the biggest hug from her before tucking her in.
That’s what life is about. Not who won what softball game. Not who caught whom cheating so we have to get back at them. It’s about living life. I’m sorry, but as cool as winning the league title is, it really doesn’t amount to shit in the whole scheme of things. If I were to ever win one, I wouldn’t change who I am. Unfortunately, there are some people in this association who live and die by the win on the field. That’s just sad. Play the game, hang with your friends and have fun. That’s the meaning of recreation. If you really need softball games to validate yourself, go see a psychologist.